Everyone wants to know how To keep him interested after the first date
In this post, I’ll go through some simple steps that will show you how to keep him interested after the first date and make sure you’re always in a mentally strong place so that you don’t get needy and push him away.
1. Show him you had fun
To play it cool, or to not play it cool
Well, it is dependent on many other factors. Since you are reading this post, I assume you like this guy, which probably means that he took you on a good date and did something to impress you, So let him know!You don’t have to overdo it. Just text him to say: “Hey, just got into bed. I had a great time.Thanks so much!
Just acknowledging that you enjoyed yourself is important for a man. It lets him know he should keep pursuing and that you’ll be receptive to his future advances.
2. Avoid overdoing the affection thingy
It’s important to strike a balance between showing you’re into him and showing you’re not too needy.
If he texts you after a couple of days, don’t leave it too long to respond or he’ll assume you’re not bothered.
Engage in few texts back and forth, throw in a little flirting, but don’t get sidetracked into an endless conversation for hours or it will get stale and you’ll lose any mystery. You want to leave him a reason to get in touch again or schedule another date to talk in person. So don’t waste all your good conversation on instant messenger!
Also, while you shouldn’t be afraid to text him first, don’t do it every time or it will put you in the position of always being the one chasing. Let him be the one to make the first contact sometimes – it will let you know if he’s actually into you or not.
3. Develop the anticipating gradually
When you’re texting, talk about other fun things you’d like to do together (not in a sexual way – and if you two go down that route, keep it lightly suggestive, nothing too explicit by talking about activities and interests you’re both passionate about you’ll find it easy to schedule your next date.
And remember – don’t let your conversations just become boring, “What u up to?” chats about your day. Keep things fun and flirty and joke around when you talk. The most important thing is not to overthink your every move.
The fourth tip in learning how To keep him interested after the first date is…
4. Don’t come as the needy person
It’s easy to find yourself pacing up and down, checking your phone every five minutes, hoping he’ll keep texting back and worrying whenever he doesn’t.
You get that needy feeling in the pit of your stomach, and you may even start obsessing as you hope he’s still into you.
This is a totally destructive mindset that will slowly drain your confidence and make you act weird around him, because he’ll sense you’re trying too hard.
So in this stage, you must find other ways to keep your OWN life interesting.
Invest in your friends. Find activities you love. Make time for your work, family, art, exercise, things that make you excited.
The worst thing you can do is invest all your happiness in this new guy who you barely know, thinking that you’ll suddenly be depressed and lost if he doesn’t like you,At the end of the day, I know this sounds cheesy, but if he doesn’t see how amazing you are, and you have to play constant mental chess moves just to keep him interested, he’s NOT your guy anyway.
5. Allow into your life bit by bit
One of the crucial ways to keep him interested is not to “jump the gun” too quickly.
Just because things went well the first time, don’t assume you’re now officially exclusive or dating. Keep your options open, at least to begin with. Don’t start canceling other plans just so you can fit him in.
If you can only see him one evening this week, then so be it. There’s always time for things to grow if it goes well, so don’t feel the need to skip ahead in the relationship. Or maybe he wants you to spend the whole weekend with him, but you already made plans for drinks with friends that night. ok then he’ll have to wait – go see your girlfriends and pencil him in for next week.
It’s good for a guy to see in the early stages that you have other commitments (as long as you do actually have room for him somewhere within those – if you’re always busy and rigid in your schedule a guy will eventually lose interest, thinking it’s too much effort.