Today, we look at Anger Management Techniques to Help you Control your Rage
Despite the potential for destruction, psychologists consider anger to be a normal and even a healthy human emotion It is anger after all which helps you to meet and overcome threats to your well-being. It is only when anger gets out of control that it can lead to problems at work, in your personal relationships and in the overall quality of your life. If this is has been happening all too often, it may be time to look through a few anger management techniques. These will help you to control your anger and express it in a positive way.
Be assertive, not aggressive
Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats, according to the American Psychologists Association. In its healthy manifestation, anger inspires powerful feelings and behaviors. It is not always possible to lash out at everything that annoys you. On the other hand, there are laws and conventions of civil society, the matter of personal and physical safety which should control how far you can express your rage. In matters where the anger is directed at circumstances around you like the rude behavior of a co-worker, staff at a store or perhaps a traffic jam, it is better to express your emotions assertively instead of aggressively. This is the healthiest way to express anger. To do this, you have to learn how to make clear what your needs are, and how to get them met, without hurting others, Being assertive doesn’t mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others.
Focus on something different
Another strategy to manage anger is to suppress it at first then and convert it into more constructive behavior. So before you react to an infuriating situation, take a few moments to breathe deeply and count to 10. Better still, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. Slowing down can help defuse your temper and it will also help you think before you speak so that you do not end up saying or doing something that you might regret later on. If necessary, take a break from the person or situation until your frustration subsides a bit.
Very often the cycle of anger-aggression can be effectively broken by humor. If you can draw a picture of what the actual individual or thing might look like. This will take a lot of the edge off your fury, there are some cautions as well. Firstly, don’t try to just “laugh off” your problems; rather use humor to help yourself face them more constructively. Second, don’t give into harsh and bitter sarcasm since that’s just another form of unhealthy anger expression.
In conclusion, if you try all self-help techniques but still find yourself to anger, look for help. Here are 3 anger management techniques you could always use.